Yes, it IS wrong.

 

Yes, it IS wrong.

Typing out today's thought was a little difficult. This thought has been around me for a while now, especially when I read #bodypositivity #loveyourself #butylieswithin #stopbodyshaming, these hashtags drive me crazy. Yes, I have been a victim to body shaming even without the knowledge of this concept. It has been everywhere; school, neighbourhood, home, public places, you name it. Something that started of a joke, something that was laughable has kind of become a mild traumatic experience for me. For a long time, I could not look into the mirrors, I would try and avoid them where ever I found them, I feared to stand on the measuring scale, I hesitated to wearer certain clothes, I feared to be a part of public events.

Everyone in school knew me as a tomboy, someone ready to fight all the time, someone who stood up to the right no matter what, no matter against who! But unfortunately, I could not stand up for myself. This is not any justification for anything, this is just me trying to be transparent about thing I have been through.    

When we speak about anyone; friend, best friend, collogue, classmate, sibling, parents, children, anybody in that case, first try and ask them if they are comfortable speaking about it. If it was okay for you made jokes on them, because you might not know but it might have caused a deep wound in their self-confidence, it might cause a long-lasting psychological effect on them.

Yes, this issue is not bound to only female gender, males too go through this. Its not just about how healthy or not it has also been about colour gender appearance in different aspects in that case. Its easy to say “Do not judge a book by its cover” but a little heard to apply it in our daily life.

If you know anyone who is going through the same, help them, talk to them, guide them. Anybody's condition is not caused due to eating habits, there could be any biological or also sometimes psychological causes, help them get right guidance.

Back to me, I did consult professional help and changed my lifestyle and lost around 24 pounds in about 3 months. Yes, it did give me confidence, but it also hurts me when people don’t notice it and indeed extreme joy when they do so. But to be honest all that it really takes is to accept yourself in all means. Cheer your friends if they are insecure or feeling bad about their appearance.

"Ultimately body is just a mere instrument all that matter is love." (Sorry, that was the philosopher in me.)

 Stand up for yourself, YES, IT IS WRONG, LETS MAKE IT RIGHT.